Finally, she said, “No, that’s clear. You don’t love me enough to show it. You know the pressure I’m under with my marriage. And then this? It’s like you don’t care,” then hung up.

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Disappointed Older Couple | Source: Getty Images

Even though I was shocked by Eloise’s reaction, we bought her porcelain tableware, hoping to please her. In the end, we decided not to give her $40,000 because we didn’t think she deserved it.

Fast forward to last week. Eloise talked to her brother and found out that we were telling him the truth about money. After confirming this with her cousins, she called us again, accusing us of discrimination: “I just found out that it was true that you gave everyone money when they got married. Why didn’t I get anything?

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Monetary Donation | source: Getty Images

We remained adamant, which meant that our stance was based on his initial reaction: “We decided that after your reaction to the wedding gift, we shouldn’t offer you money. Eloise begged, insisting on persuading us to change our minds: “So you’re punishing me? And that’s it? Because I was annoyed by the air fryer?

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Woman Throwing Tantrums | Source: Getty Images

I was angry because she didn’t even understand what she had done wrong. “It wasn’t about the air fryer, Eloise. It was about the way you spoke to us, the lack of respect. “It’s not something we expected and can support,” I explained.

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Surprised Elderly Woman Talking on the Phone | Source: Getty Images

Eloise begged us, almost crying, “But it’s so unfair! I was stressed, Grandma. Planning a wedding is hard and I just fell apart. I didn’t mean anything like that. I felt that she should apologize to us instead of making excuses for her behavior.

But I told him, “We understand that this is a stressful time, but actions and words have consequences. We hope you understand the value of family and love over material possessions. A desperate Eloise adds: “But you don’t understand! Can’t we forget everything that happened? I need this money, grandma.

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Young Woman Holding Back Tears Before Calling | Source: Getty Images

She helped us, threatened to boycott Christmas and accused us of disturbing her, but we did not give in. At the end, I said, “We love you very much. It has nothing to do with cutting yourself. We just hope that you will think about it and understand why we made this decision.

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Woman Showing Menacing Finger | Source: Getty Images

Now Eloise has fulfilled her threat and boycotted Christmas. His mother, who is our daughter-in-law, shares his opinion, calling us unreasonable. However, we think that after everything we’ve done for Eloise, the gift of an air fryer shouldn’t have caused such a reaction.

 

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Confused Older Couple | Source: Getty Images

By comparison, we had already paid for his studies, and his parents had paid for his education and half of the cost of his wedding. In addition, she and her husband are in a stable financial situation and do not need our money urgently.

We are also not angry with our granddaughters for disclosing information about a monetary gift, because they belong to the group of family members who have the right to know about it. We shipped the air fryer early because we live far away, so we always send our gifts early.

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Elderly Couple Spending Time With Family | Source: Getty Images

A wedding gift is also something different than the money we give in the hope that it will be spent on something important, such as a house. We now believe that the action we took against Eloise was well deserved and we will not reverse our decision, even if she and her mother threaten to do the worst.

Despite the turbulent events and Eloise’s lack of understanding of our point of view, my husband and I stand by our decision. Love and respect are the most important thing in our family and we are